Discuss: Sex Before Kissing - How 15-Year-Old Girls Are Dealing With Porn-Addicted Boys

Discuss: Sex Before Kissing - How 15-Year-Old Girls Are Dealing With Porn-Addicted Boys

A recent article on "Fight The New Drug" highlighted again the new problem of easy access to extreme pornography, and its impact on young relationships. As a father of 4 girls, I am concerned that it is extremely likely that every person they choose to have a sexual relationship with, will have watched countless hours of porn.

The impact of this societal phenomena is becoming clear today already, but we really are at the early stages of sex+technology. Today it is mostly pornography accessed through smartphones and computers, but in the VERY near term, it will be more immersive, with the aid of virtual reality headsets, sensory suits, sex robots, bio implants and more.

Each of these move the needle on the expectations people have as to what 'normal' sex is, and unfortunately that will impact the younger generations the most.

If you aren't aware of Fight The New Drug, their mission is simple:

"Fight the New Drug exists to provide individuals the opportunity to make an informed decision regarding pornography by raising awareness on its harmful effects using only science, facts, and personal accounts."

Our opinion is that people will continue to consumer porn, but should do so reasonably and safely, but we do suggest reading more of their About page to understand their POV that led them to create their movement.

An effective response would be to include pornography as a topic in your discussions about sex with your children. Many of you will be reeling with horror at the thought of that statement; I know plenty of parents who are too embarrassed to have the 'birds and bees' conversation... But the data is clear. If we do not address these topics with them, their opinions and expectations will be formed directly by porn, or indirectly by their friends / lovers who have consumed porn. 

You might find it difficult, but it's much better than the alternative, and as a father of girls, I want to make it clear that isn't just a daughter problem. We can do our best to educate, but your sons need this explaining to them as well. As a great illustration, a lady called Cindy Gallop stood up at a TED event and gave a 4 minute presentation called "Make Love Not Porn".

"At TED2009, audience member Cindy Gallop gave a 4-minute presentation that became one of the event’s most talked about. Speaking from her personal experience, she argued that hardcore pornography had distorted the way a generation of young men think about sex, and talked about how she was fighting back with the launch of a website to correct the myths being propagated."

Check out Cindy's presentation HERE (warning, does contain graphic content), and also her associated website, "Make Love Not Porn". The site looks like it has been somewhat abandoned, but you will see in her "Know It" section some of the myths she has been trying tok break down (and again, this site certainly contains some NSFW language and ideas).

What do you think?

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